Why Do People Fail To Improve Their Lives

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Have you ever randomly included the term MOTIVATION on YouTube and how were the results? Astonishing right?
While they might not be reaching the Gangnam Style numbers, getting up to 4–5 million views is actually quite a milestone and what do these vlogs or videos usually on?
Change, Impact, Personal development, Self-Improvement, Motivation, education and the likes but what is the problem and why does it seem like so many or most individuals around the world are only listening but are unable to carry out what they want to in themselves or they are just able to wish for the so-called change in their lives but unable to make it real and tangible?

You just need to take a stroll on the top podcasting platforms – and you’ll realize that truly, and daily millions upon millions are desperately trying to get that change or improvement in their lives, desperately wishing and many; actually working towards that change in themselves, their doings, work, education, relationship, family, life and in all other facets that one columns as an individual and a brilliant one as that  but the question is and will always be ‘Why do people still fail after spending hours staying motivated to change their lives?’

While changing one’s life (or should I say improving life) is not a day’s job but might be more demanding than most other things people do, doing it is actually one of the hardest decisions one will ever take as a human, really it is not easy to find discomfort in comfort and seek change in normalcy, so even after listening to all that talk from Billy Alsbrook, Eric Thomas, Tony Robbins and so many other motivators and impact makers, it’s become a norm for most to think about what they’ve just been taught or educated on, make the decision to take up the challenge, (a few of the lot) follow it up for a few days or weeks, get worn out and finally go like ‘arrgh, this is not my thing’  quit and end up going back to their previous lives, the life they’ve been living in mediocrity and gotten tired of previously, but why do they do this?
It’s not like Tony Robbins forced them to listen to his podcast or visit his YouTube channel anyways? (Permit me, he does irate our eyes with ads on YouTube sometimes) but people hear of such platforms somehow and go visit to learn, to seek knowledge and when they do, they end up backing out and going back to their ugly lives so to this, I’ve decided to couple up the reason I think and have associated with many individuals why lots do not usually get the change they seek in themselves or their doings.

 

Inertia/Inability to take the first step

A state of unwillingness to move, or change position, that is basically the definition of inertia, a term in physics, defined as ‘the tendency of a body to maintain its state of rest or uniform motion unless acted upon by an external force’, it is the unwillingness of a human being to achieve change or difference without a push from others, it is that heavy burden that stops people from taking the first steps towards their goals, aspirations and desires and keep their backs sitted in their benches at home or at their so-detested place of work that takes the chunk of their lives by the 9-5 of drudgery but to take that one step, just the first one towards a new life of lifestyle usually is what have held lots and lots of individuals from actually achieving the change their desire in their lives and while the eventual result of inertness is stagnancy in life, detestable career, relationship and various other facets of life, just the one step to change seems like the most arduous of all but as said ‘the journey of a thousand miles begins with just a step’, not willing to take that one step eventually leads a lot the way they never intended and they have to live with that.

Comfort

This should make a lot of individuals wonder ‘How does comfort relate to change, impact and development?’ but rather unfortunately, so many people are actually comfortable with their so-dreaded life and lifestyle, they’d rather suffer and smile than break the chain and truly be free.
Being so into the norm actually has a lot of people not seeking change or discomfort, not even for a second, many would rather stay unfit and unhealthy than work out a while and improve both their physical appearance and general well-being (health).
Comfort puts people in a state of stagnation and imposed dogmatization but seeking discomfort and development which many dread on the other hand places move an individual into a state of constant development and improvement.
Ask yourself truly, ‘Am I being comfortable in this position I am in life or am I pushing for more and better things?’ or better still ask ‘Am I influencing things or am I only being influenced?’
The impact makers of the world were once normal individuals who broke the norm only because they felt uncomfortable with the happenings around and within them, most fail to realize they live a too simple, ruled life and they tend to follow the rules, not say much (not to be confused with introversion),not shake the walls but be the square peg in the square hole as said by a  speaker and do not realize that everything they are actually desiring in on the other side of where they are right now.

Dogma

So many individuals have been indoctrinated by their main influences while being nurtured usually parents, schools and other environmental factors into a belief system that places a demarcation on their lives and the achievements therein, and this enables such people into casting a restrain on themselves and forces them to live in a state of mediocrity, less than what they actually can because they’ve been forced into believing that the 9-5s, the save-till-you-die mantra are what they can achieve and the things they get to watch on T.V or listen to on radio, the record-breaking achievements, thesis breakthrough, the 5.0 GPA scores are the things they cannot, why? Because it is not for them (the victims of dogma) but for those ahead of them and with such belief at heart, millions are forced to lay standards that should be under-achievements for themselves and tag these their life-goals and ambitions

Usually, it is one major factor affecting the middle-class (if there really is something like that) and those who basically lack things they want in life.

Lack of Commitment

In this world of today where everything seems to be all about the instant things, the YouTube views, the Facebook likes, the IG likes, Retweets and all of that, disciplining oneself and committing to focus on needed things and finding a way to neglect the disturbances seem like a really big trouble for so many.

Discipline is not a day job, and many still fall into its unbiased trap – to earn it, you have to work it; and while most do want to earn it, they are not ready to work it, they might do so for day, a week or a month but still end up falling out, it’s so difficult taking even a stroll every morning these days and as you try to follow up for about one week or so, you’re beginning to doubt is this really is working and then goes your mobile device, a message from that old friend, ‘Let me just see what he has to say’ and you keep on seeing what he has to say for over 30 minutes and so does the trigger of your phone display ‘Morning strolls’ but you ignore it because you’re already in the sea of Facebook and probably won’t come offshore for another 45 minutes.
So many people lack commitment in most things in their lives including education, family, relationship, work yet expect change? How does that work out?

Doubt

Yes, doubt! That demon that tells you loudly ‘You can’t do it, you won’t be able to’ than the quiet voice in your head that says ‘You can and it is achievable’
Doubt is the seed that had ended the journey to change the lives of so many because as you tend to commit, it sets in once more and with Fear as an accomplice, tell one all sorts of facts actually,  well filled with lies; of how you failed the last time and how bad that hurt you and made you promise never to try change again but Doubt actually can be a source of motivation too, as it always prompts the ‘What if?’ question;

So what if you fail after doing it?
You still did it nonetheless and that is a form of success – even when not successful and you can keep on doing it till you win.

Blaming Situations, People or Things for Happenings

A meme trended sometimes ago with a kid asking his father, ‘What were you doing when Bill Gates and other millionaires of today were learning how to make money?’

While that is an interesting question, what the kid wants to know actually  might not the answer to the question but wants an excuse to not aim for his zenith and thus is finding a reason to do so – by claiming since his father wasn’t, he probably wouldn’t as well.

So many people in the world these days are so into this, they blame the government for their hard life, their partners behaviors for affecting theirs and making them lack, their kids heavy consumption as why they are not rich yet, their parents for birthing them while in poverty and the list goes on and on but never blame themselves for the times they’d procrastinated on doing things that needed to be, the numerous times they failed at their responsibilities but had to be covered for, until people stop blaming the acts of others for the way they live their lives and decide to own up for themselves and be the author of their own stories, change truly can’t be achieved.

Lack of Challenges

You can’t always stay motivated, inspired and all jazzed to fire up and show the world what you want to –  lack of challenging situations and happenings has pulled down so many individuals and stopped them from achieving tangible changes because this makes one weak and when one is not prompted to move, well, he might as well just lay back till he’s killed with the diseases that comes with immobility, people need challenges to move them towards change and we too can move towards challenges by  actually seeking it.

Unwillingness to Attend to Responsibilities

Actually, no one likes taking care of their or another’s problems, it is not a fun thing to do – rather an arduous task and no one is actually all happy to face problems, to brainstorm and rack their brain in search of answers to the unanswered is not an easy task to carry out as such a task that requires high mental strength and forces your sinew and body on a horse-race, but despite the sagged faces and clenched fists, someone has to take care to them. Facing responsibilities and actually solving problems is still the best way to changing and making a change here, there or anywhere because when we tap into our creative well for more and ask of it more, it keeps on expanding and we get to do more and be more, but when we don’t and neglect it’s ability, it reclines in function and strength and thus keeps one with a less motivated and doing mind.

Having No Sense of Purpose in What You Do

It’s really unfortunate to know that millions upon millions do not have a feeling of belongingness in what they do, so many students end up asking why they studied whatever course they did in the tertiary institutions and for what reason they did it?

Sadder still is doing something for a reasons unknown, according to stats, 90% of workers are not happy with what they do. Now don’t ask me why they still do it because I think the answers should be up above. How will you end up, after spending 30  years of your life working your way up the corporate ladder, asking ‘Why you even worked in that firm?’
You can improve your life or that of anyone while doing something you feel nothing or no joy or enthusiasm for, it would all be pointless or would you be willing or better still happy to go to war for a country you’re not of nationality just because you stay there?

It just doesn’t work
Would you be willing or better still happy to go to war for a country you’re not of nationality just because you stay there?

Ignorance

The only difference between the man earning 20$ per month and the one earning 25$ is that the one earning less hasn’t yet figured out a way to earn more

Talking about changing or improving one’s life has a lot to put on the table but it’s unfortunate that some (many) people don’t even know they can change or improve their lives and this is because they lack information or the right information on how they can do so but all they listen to are unhelpful news of some celebrity purchasing a car, someone winning the Ballon D’or and as they keep on celebrating the success of others, they totally neglect their own.
Some people actually don’t know that they can have a better life or a different one than they do now and so just act accordingly and like sheep, follow what the society says ‘follow the rules, not say much (not to be confused with introversion),not shake the walls but be the square peg in the square hole’ and they’ve already grown into the mindset that tells them that this is it and this is al they can ever be but if they knew better, won’t they?

 

Making  good use of one’s time and opportunities, attending helpful seminar and meetings are some of the ways to get off this ignorance.If each and every one of us search within ourselves, seek to develop ourselves, could we not get the improvement or development we truly wish?


Related readings
7 Reasons We Fail
The Top Reasons Why People Fail to Reach Their Goals
Importance of Failure

 

 

10 Comments

  1. People also fail in the bid to improve their live`s because of FEAR. Fear of the unknown most folks will rather stay put with what they have know and than take the risk of going for the unknow. Their worry is what if I take the leap and things turn out the other way what becomes of me and my life.
    UNFAVOURABLE ENVIRONMENT Is another point that makes most folks fail to take up the plan to improve their lives. Business is war in this part of our world. Much more needs to be done for you to smell success.

    1. Author

      Glad you’re here Obe.
      Thanks for voicing out your opinion on the post.
      Do check back again sometime.

  2. People also fail in the bid to take up the plan to improve their lives for FEAR of the unknow. They would rather remain in the plan they know has always given them some form of comfort than take a leap for the unknown. Again Unfavourable Environment is another pointer to why people fail to embarking on the plan to improve their lives or fortune. In this part of our world business is war. Much more is demanded for you to smell success in all that you do, free lunch has sieze to exist long time ago.

  3. Thanks for this piece. It is a needed one!.

    Taking the first step is the topmost cause of one not improving his/her life. One thing we don’t know is this, after the first step, it is very easy to go on.

  4. Congratulations! Emmanuel
    Well planned, organized, informative article. Some people fail due to ego issues, complexity as well. This is enlightening article. Thank you so much for sharing.
    All the best

  5. Hello Emmanuel,

    I’m glad I dropped by and read through. Thank you for the invite. Being motivated is a necessity to get where you want and when the inner spirit has liberation, inspiration is born!

    This is worth reading. Keep writing your heart out.

  6. Great points you raised, Emmanuel. I always say that nothing happens until we take action. Reading books, retweeting wise words on Twitter, and listening to podcasts are all great. But, without action, it is all zero. We all need to push ourselves to take action, that’s where all the freedom lies.

  7. Nice piece with detailed explanations! In addition, one of the keys to experiencing the desired change in our lives having received the right message on self improvement is to practise what we have learned or heard. To achieve results from what we have learned is possible and easier through habit. Form strong HABITS and master them.

    Without strong habits formed through repetitive actions from what we have learned or heard about self improvement no matter how highly motivating those messages and talks may be, it is very hard to achieve the desired change we want in our personal and professional lives.

  8. Taking action is always what limits most people from their potentials, thanks for the article, it’s so inspirational

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